{"id":6453,"date":"2021-01-02T12:53:24","date_gmt":"2021-01-02T12:53:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/?p=6453"},"modified":"2021-01-02T12:53:24","modified_gmt":"2021-01-02T12:53:24","slug":"co-nedelat-na-rande","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/co-nedelat-na-rande\/","title":{"rendered":"Co (ne)d\u011blat na rande?"},"content":{"rendered":"

V\u0161ichni to zn\u00e1me. U\u017e n\u011bjakou dobu se sna\u017e\u00edme naj\u00edt partnera a ve chv\u00edli, kdy se poda\u0159\u00ed potkat n\u011bkoho zaj\u00edmav\u00e9ho, chceme v\u0161echno ud\u011blat spr\u00e1vn\u011b, abychom ho neodradili. Je celkem jedno, zda zaj\u00edmav\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka najdeme na seznamce<\/a> nebo potk\u00e1me v baru, v\u0161e mus\u00ed v\u017edy za\u010d\u00edt prvn\u00edm rande. V r\u00e1mci na\u0161eho Vztahov\u00e9ho pr\u016fvodce jsme se ji\u017e zam\u011b\u0159ili nap\u0159. na seznamovac\u00ed strategie mu\u017e\u016f a \u017een<\/a>, poj\u010fme se tedy te\u010f zam\u011b\u0159it na to, co mo\u017en\u00e1 p\u0159i rand\u011bn\u00ed d\u011bl\u00e1me \u0161patn\u011b, co d\u011blat a co na rande ned\u011blat.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n

Rand\u011bn\u00ed by se dalo p\u0159irovnat k tanci. Z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed n\u00e1m na jednotliv\u00fdch kroc\u00edch, ale je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 neztratit svoji p\u0159irozenost. Zcela p\u0159irozen\u00e1 je tak\u00e9 ur\u010dit\u00e1 m\u00edra nejistoty a nervozity. D\u00e1 se \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee stejn\u011b ji pro\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed ob\u011b strany, sp\u00ed\u0161e ne\u017e na pohlav\u00ed je rozd\u00edl mezi jednotlivci, co\u017e mimojin\u00e9 to tak\u00e9 souvis\u00ed s t\u00edm, jak\u00e9 zku\u0161enosti z minul\u00fdch rande a vztah\u016f maj\u00ed.<\/span> <\/p> \n

Je zbyte\u010dn\u00e9 si hr\u00e1t na n\u011bco, co nejsem. A\u0165 u\u017e jsem mu\u017e nebo \u017eena, je pro ob\u011b pohlav\u00ed d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 ur\u010dit\u00e1 p\u0159irozenost a up\u0159\u00edmnost. Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b to neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee bychom m\u011bli na prvn\u00ed sch\u016fzce za\u010d\u00edt mluvit dopodrobna o tom, \u010d\u00edm n\u00e1s minul\u00fd partner roz\u010diloval. Emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed sv\u011bt je mo\u017en\u00e1 bli\u017e\u0161\u00ed \u017een\u00e1m, proto by si m\u011bly d\u00e1vat v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed pozor na to, aby se mu\u017e nec\u00edtil zahlcen\u00fd ve\u0161ker\u00fdmi jej\u00edmi emocemi. Otev\u0159ete svoji du\u0161i pomalu a opatrn\u011b, nejd\u0159\u00edve po\u010dkejte, jak zareaguje a podle toho jednejte d\u00e1l. Naopak u mu\u017e\u016f, \u017eeny velmi ocen\u00ed to, pokud si opravdu pamatuj\u00ed to, co jim \u017eena \u0159\u00edk\u00e1. Dok\u00e1\u017e\u00ed zavn\u00edmat n\u011bjak\u00fd detail z jejich konverzace a maj\u00ed up\u0159\u00edmn\u00fd z\u00e1jem o \u017eivot \u017eeny. Nen\u00ed zde nutn\u00e9 se \u017eeny vypt\u00e1vat na p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 osobn\u00ed v\u011bci. Stejn\u011b jako by \u017eena m\u011bla b\u00fdt opatrn\u00e1 ve sv\u00fdch emoc\u00edch, tak\u00e9 mu\u017e by m\u011bl po mal\u00fdch kousc\u00edch zkou\u0161et, do jak\u00fdch osobn\u00edch t\u00e9mat je \u017eena p\u0159ipravena se pustit.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n

Dal\u0161\u00edm \u010dast\u00fdm dilematem prvn\u00ed sch\u016fzky je to, kdy se po n\u00ed ozvat. Nechat druh\u00e9ho tzv. vycukat, aby si nemyslel, \u017ee jsem zoufalec? Stejn\u011b jako v p\u0159edchoz\u00edm odstavci je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 projevit up\u0159\u00edmn\u00fd a oby\u010dejn\u011b lidsk\u00fd z\u00e1jem. Pokud v\u00e1h\u00e1te jak na to, je p\u0159ece oby\u010dejn\u011b lidsk\u00fd z\u00e1jem se zeptat, zda \u017eena dorazila v po\u0159\u00e1dku dom\u016f a zhodnocen\u00ed ve\u010dera bez p\u0159ehnan\u00fdch superlativ\u016f se d\u00e1 pova\u017eovat za projev slu\u0161nosti. Pokud to pro v\u00e1s byl p\u0159\u00edjemn\u011b str\u00e1ven\u00fd \u010das, dejte to \u017een\u011b najevo. Ocen\u00ed to sp\u00ed\u0161e ne\u017e hran\u00ed n\u011bjak\u00fdch her. V\u017edy vych\u00e1zejte z reakc\u00ed druh\u00e9ho. Dejte na svoji intuici a nenechte se p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 ovlivnit racion\u00e1ln\u00edmi a univerz\u00e1ln\u00edmi radami. Je vhodn\u00e9 neztr\u00e1cet rozum a nepodlehnout prvn\u00edmu dojmu, neanalyzovat ka\u017ed\u00fd pohled, proto\u017ee pak ztr\u00e1c\u00edte svoji p\u0159irozenost a uvoln\u011bnost.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n

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Ka\u017ed\u00e1 \u017eena tak\u00e9 ocen\u00ed chov\u00e1n\u00ed gentlemana sp\u00ed\u0161e ne\u017e drs\u0148\u00e1ka a fraj\u00edrka. Z\u00e1kladn\u00ed chov\u00e1n\u00ed mu\u017e\u016f z \u010dernob\u00edl\u00fdch film\u016f dnes ji\u017e nen\u00ed samoz\u0159ejmost\u00ed, ale ka\u017ed\u00fd mu\u017e si p\u00e1r t\u011bchto v\u011bc\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee osvojit. Otev\u0159\u00edt \u017een\u011b dve\u0159e, pomoci j\u00ed do kab\u00e1tu, nechat \u017eenu j\u00edt po vnit\u0159n\u00ed stran\u011b chodn\u00edku nebo j\u00ed dok\u00e1zat bezpe\u010dn\u011b prov\u00e9st davem, v \u017een\u011b vzbud\u00ed pocit jistoty a bezpe\u010d\u00ed. Z\u00e1rove\u0148 si bude velmi dob\u0159e uv\u011bdomovat, \u017ee to d\u00edky mali\u010dkostem, kter\u00e9 pro ni jej\u00ed mu\u017e d\u011bl\u00e1.<\/span> <\/p> \n

Posledn\u00ed v\u011bc, kterou zm\u00edn\u00edme je um\u011bn\u00ed uk\u00e1zat sv\u016fj n\u00e1zor. P\u0159esto, \u017ee \u017eeny cht\u011bj\u00ed b\u00fdt ope\u010dov\u00e1van\u00e9, neznamen\u00e1 to, \u017ee mu\u017e neocen\u00ed to, \u017ee se dok\u00e1\u017ee rozhodnout sama za sebe. Rozumn\u00fd a sebev\u011bdom\u00fd mu\u017e nechce m\u00edt panenku, za kterou bude muset v\u0161echno d\u011blat a rozhodovat. Nebojte se oponovat, d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 je sp\u00ed\u0161e p\u0159i tomto druh\u00e9ho neur\u00e1\u017eet a neshazovat. Nen\u00ed nutn\u00e9 se h\u00e1dat jen proto, abychom si prosadili svou. Sebev\u011bdom\u00e9 vystupov\u00e1n\u00ed se poj\u00ed se schopnost\u00ed diplomacie a elegantn\u00edho vyjad\u0159ov\u00e1n\u00ed vlastn\u00edch postoj\u016f. Ur\u010dit\u00e1 nedostupnost je z\u00e1rove\u0148 pro mu\u017ee sign\u00e1lem k dal\u0161\u00edmu pozn\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed \u017eeny a podpo\u0159\u00ed jeho touhu se s n\u00ed znovu setk\u00e1vat.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n

Na z\u00e1v\u011br je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 zm\u00ednit, \u017ee nen\u00ed mo\u017en\u00e9 v\u017edy aplikovat v\u0161echno, nechte va\u0161e rande plynout, neztrat\u00edte tak na svoj\u00ed uvoln\u011bnosti a dok\u00e1\u017eete se sami v sob\u011b pak l\u00e9pe zorientovat a zp\u011btn\u011b zhodnotit, jak v\u00e1m s va\u0161\u00edm prot\u011bj\u0161kem vlastn\u011b bylo. <\/span> <\/p> \n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

V\u0161ichni to zn\u00e1me. U\u017e n\u011bjakou dobu se sna\u017e\u00edme naj\u00edt partnera a ve chv\u00edli, kdy se poda\u0159\u00ed potkat n\u011bkoho zaj\u00edmav\u00e9ho, chceme v\u0161echno ud\u011blat spr\u00e1vn\u011b, abychom ho neodradili. Je celkem jedno, zda zaj\u00edmav\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka najdeme na seznamce nebo potk\u00e1me v baru, v\u0161e mus\u00ed v\u017edy za\u010d\u00edt prvn\u00edm rande. V r\u00e1mci na\u0161eho Vztahov\u00e9ho pr\u016fvodce jsme se ji\u017e zam\u011b\u0159ili nap\u0159. … <\/p> \n","protected":false},"author":24,"featured_media":6455,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[117],"tags":[98,102,113],"table_tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6453"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/24"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6453"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6453\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6457,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6453\/revisions\/6457"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6455"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6453"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6453"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6453"},{"taxonomy":"table_tags","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/table_tags?post=6453"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}