{"id":6468,"date":"2021-02-15T06:20:56","date_gmt":"2021-02-15T06:20:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/?p=6468"},"modified":"2021-02-15T06:20:56","modified_gmt":"2021-02-15T06:20:56","slug":"jak-zvladnout-odmitnuti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/jak-zvladnout-odmitnuti\/","title":{"rendered":"Jak zvl\u00e1dnout odm\u00edtnut\u00ed?"},"content":{"rendered":" <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">T\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 ka\u017ed\u00fd se ve vztahu setkal s neop\u011btovan\u00fdmi city nebo se dostal do f\u00e1ze, kdy cht\u011bl partnersk\u00fd vztah d\u00e1l rozv\u00edjet, ale jeho l\u00e1ska to vid\u011bla jinak. Odm\u00edtnut\u00ed od \u010dlov\u011bka, kter\u00fd je pro n\u00e1s v\u0161\u00edm, je obrovskou r\u00e1nou pro n\u00e1\u0161 emo\u010dn\u00ed sv\u011bt. Jak takovou r\u00e1nu ust\u00e1t, vyhrabat se z toho a naj\u00edt s\u00edlu za\u010d\u00edt znovu, je dal\u0161\u00edm t\u00e9matem na\u0161eho Vztahov\u00e9ho pr\u016fvodce.<\/span> <\/p> \n <p> &nbsp; <\/p> \n <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pokud se setk\u00e1me se zklam\u00e1n\u00edm z odm\u00edtnut\u00ed pot\u0159ebujeme za\u010d\u00edt uzdravovat z\u00e1klady, na kter\u00fdch stav\u00edme sv\u016fj postoj k \u017eivotu. Pot\u0159ebujeme tzv. ope\u010dovat sami sebe. Do jist\u00e9 m\u00edry se d\u00e1 \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee si m\u016f\u017eeme dovolit v takovou chv\u00edli myslet hlavn\u011b na sebe. Mo\u017en\u00e1 n\u00e1s napadne, \u017ee objektivn\u011b se n\u00e1m ned\u011bje nic tak hrozn\u00e9ho, jsme zdrav\u00ed, m\u00e1me miluj\u00edc\u00ed rodinu, kamar\u00e1dy, dobrou pr\u00e1ci, p\u0159esto m\u00e1me dojem, \u017ee se n\u00e1m srdce rozpad\u00e1 na kousky. V takovou chv\u00edli n\u00e1m pom\u016f\u017ee p\u0159ijet\u00ed na\u0161eho (mo\u017en\u00e1 subjektivn\u00edho) pocitu ne\u0161t\u011bst\u00ed od n\u011bkoho n\u00e1m bl\u00edzk\u00e9ho. Tzv. legitimizace neboli vyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00ed toho, \u017ee na v\u0161echny na\u0161e aktu\u00e1ln\u00ed pocity m\u00e1me v tuto chv\u00edli n\u00e1rok, je jedn\u00edm z l\u00e9k\u016f, kter\u00e9 n\u00e1m na za\u010d\u00e1tku velmi pom\u016f\u017eou. Jedn\u00edm z n\u00e1stroj\u016f t\u00e9to legitimizace m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt objet\u00ed od kamar\u00e1da \u010di kamar\u00e1dky, sourozence nebo kohokoliv pro n\u00e1s d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9ho. Nenahrad\u00ed n\u00e1m to pocity chovan\u00e9 v\u016f\u010di na\u0161\u00ed l\u00e1sce, ale uk\u00e1\u017ee n\u00e1m to pevn\u00e9 body\u00a0 v na\u0161em \u017eivot\u011b. O takovou pomoc je tak\u00e9 pot\u0159eba si \u0159\u00edct, sd\u00edlet sv\u00e9 pocity s n\u011bk\u00fdm, kdo n\u00e1s obejme, a\u0165 u\u017e doslova nebo symbolicky, emo\u010dn\u011b. S n\u011bk\u00fdm, kdo na\u0161e pocity p\u0159ijme a z\u00e1rove\u0148 nebude vyv\u00edjet tlak na zm\u011bnu, nebude n\u00e1m \u0159\u00edkat, co m\u00e1me nebo nem\u00e1me d\u011blat. Pokud najdeme s\u00edlu sv\u00e9 tr\u00e1pen\u00ed s n\u011bk\u00fdm sd\u00edlet, m\u016f\u017eeme tak naj\u00edt pevn\u00fd bod tam, kde bychom ho t\u0159eba ani ne\u010dekali.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n <p> &nbsp; <\/p> \n <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dal\u0161\u00edm krokem po p\u0159ijet\u00ed od na\u0161eho okol\u00ed je p\u0159ijmout tak\u00e9 s\u00e1m sebe. P\u0159ijmout s\u00e1m sebe v nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 situaci se v\u0161\u00edm, co pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1m, mnohdy tak\u00e9 nen\u00ed jednoduch\u00fd \u00fakol. Zda dovol\u00edm, aby m\u011b pocity ovl\u00e1daly na dlouhou dobu, budu je odm\u00edtat a nepostar\u00e1m se o sebe, mi chu\u0165 do \u017eivota, nad\u011bji ani pocit stability nep\u0159inese ani po dlouh\u00e9 dob\u011b. Navazovat vztahy k sob\u011b sam\u00e9mu je z\u00e1kladem pro schopnost b\u00fdt sob\u011b oporou, \u00fat\u011bchou i p\u0159\u00edtelem z\u00e1rove\u0148.<\/span> <\/p> \n <p> &nbsp; <\/p> \n <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">D\u00edky z\u00edsk\u00e1n\u00ed odstupu, vnit\u0159n\u00ed stability a d\u016fv\u011bry ve vlastn\u00ed s\u00edlu, m\u016f\u017ee v\u00e9st odm\u00edtnut\u00ed na\u0161\u00ed touhy \u010di p\u0159edstavy o partnerstv\u00ed ke zm\u011bn\u011b na\u0161eho pohledu na v\u011bc. Na\u0161e vlastn\u00ed touhy \u010di o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed se transformuj\u00ed v jin\u00fd druh citu. \u00dazdrava pak p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed spolu s nalezen\u00edm nov\u00e9 cesty \u010di sm\u011b\u0159ov\u00e1n\u00ed.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n <p> &nbsp; <\/p> \n <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spole\u010dn\u011b se z\u00edsk\u00e1n\u00edm p\u0159ijet\u00ed od okol\u00ed \u010di od sebe sama, tak\u00e9 p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed ot\u00e1zka, co pro m\u011b odm\u00edtnut\u00ed znamen\u00e1. Spojuji si to s \u00fatokem na vlastn\u00ed sebehodnotu? Spojuji si vlastn\u00ed hodnotu s t\u00edm, zda m\u011b n\u011bkdo chce \u010di nechce? Ve chv\u00edli, kdy jsme dos\u00e1hli prvotn\u00edho op\u011b\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed sv\u00fdch pocit\u016f, za\u010dne hr\u00e1t v\u00fdznamnou roli schopnost udr\u017eet k situaci odstup. Dok\u00e1zat zhodnotit jedn\u00e1n\u00ed sv\u00e9 a sv\u00e9ho prot\u011bj\u0161ku, bez pot\u0159eby hled\u00e1n\u00ed vin\u00edka n\u00e1m umo\u017en\u00ed udr\u017eet chladnou hlavu. M\u016f\u017eeme tak za sv\u00e9 reakce na odm\u00edtnut\u00ed p\u0159evz\u00edt zodpov\u011bdnost a dal\u0161\u00ed sm\u011b\u0159ov\u00e1n\u00ed se tak stane na\u0161\u00ed v\u011bdomou volbou.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n <p> &nbsp; <\/p> \n <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Odm\u00edtnut\u00ed tak pro n\u00e1s m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt zku\u0161enost, kter\u00e1 n\u00e1s nau\u010d\u00ed \u0159\u00edci si o pomoc, pojmenovat na\u0161e p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed a pot\u0159eby. M\u016f\u017ee n\u00e1m tak\u00e9 otev\u0159\u00edt nov\u00e9 dve\u0159e a z\u016fstane tak na n\u00e1s jak\u00fd dal\u0161\u00ed sm\u011br zvol\u00edme. <\/span> <\/p> \n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" <p> T\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 ka\u017ed\u00fd se ve vztahu setkal s neop\u011btovan\u00fdmi city nebo se dostal do f\u00e1ze, kdy cht\u011bl partnersk\u00fd vztah d\u00e1l rozv\u00edjet, ale jeho l\u00e1ska to vid\u011bla jinak. Odm\u00edtnut\u00ed od \u010dlov\u011bka, kter\u00fd je pro n\u00e1s v\u0161\u00edm, je obrovskou r\u00e1nou pro n\u00e1\u0161 emo\u010dn\u00ed sv\u011bt. Jak takovou r\u00e1nu ust\u00e1t, vyhrabat se z toho a naj\u00edt s\u00edlu za\u010d\u00edt znovu, je &hellip; <\/p> \n","protected":false},"author":24,"featured_media":6470,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[87,117],"tags":[125,113],"table_tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6468"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/24"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6468"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6468\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6469,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6468\/revisions\/6469"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6470"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6468"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6468"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6468"},{"taxonomy":"table_tags","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/table_tags?post=6468"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}