{"id":6482,"date":"2021-05-12T17:57:15","date_gmt":"2021-05-12T17:57:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/?p=6482"},"modified":"2021-05-12T17:57:15","modified_gmt":"2021-05-12T17:57:15","slug":"kdy-je-cas-na-novou-lasku","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/kdy-je-cas-na-novou-lasku\/","title":{"rendered":"Kdy je \u010das na novou l\u00e1sku?"},"content":{"rendered":" <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Venku je kr\u00e1sn\u011b, p\u0159\u00edroda i l\u00e1ska kolem v\u00e1s jen kvete, ale vy p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161l\u00edte nad t\u00edm, zda je ten spr\u00e1vn\u00fd \u010das na to vrhat se do nov\u00e9ho vztahu? I kdy\u017e je M\u00e1j \u201cl\u00e1sky \u010das\u201d m\u016f\u017eete b\u00fdt pr\u00e1v\u011b v porozchodov\u00e9m obdob\u00ed. M\u016f\u017ee to znamenat, \u017ee se m\u00eds\u00ed pocity osam\u011blosti a z\u00e1rove\u0148 touhy b\u00fdt s n\u011bk\u00fdm. Ne\u017e se pust\u00edte za nov\u00fdm milostn\u00fdm p\u0159\u00edb\u011bhem, pop\u0159em\u00fd\u0161lejte nad p\u00e1r v\u011bcmi\u2026<\/span> <\/p> \n <p> &nbsp; <\/p> \n <p> <b>Za\u010d\u00e1tek<\/b> <\/p> \n <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nejd\u0159\u00edve je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 se zastavit a uv\u011bdomit si, co se to vlastn\u011b stalo. A\u0165 u\u017e jste s b\u00fdval\u00fdm partnerem byli p\u00e1r m\u011bs\u00edc\u016f nebo n\u011bkolik let, je nutn\u00e9 d\u00e1t na\u0161\u00ed psychice a my\u0161lenk\u00e1m mo\u017enost zorientovat se v nov\u00e9 situaci. Pro n\u00e1\u0161 mozek a pocity je vhodn\u00e9 nastavit si op\u011bt normalitu, stabilitu, ur\u010ditou rovnov\u00e1hu. Pokud jde hned do dal\u0161\u00edho vztahu je n\u00e1\u0161 mozek i pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed \u010dasto je\u0161t\u011b spojeno s b\u00fdval\u00fdm partnerem. To m\u016f\u017ee v\u00e9st ke srovn\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed nov\u00e9ho a star\u00e9ho partnera, co\u017e velmi komplikuje na\u0161e mo\u017enosti vid\u011bt nov\u00fd vztah zdrav\u011b. Je pak velmi obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 budovat funguj\u00edc\u00ed a plnohodnotn\u00fd vztah.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n <p> &nbsp; <\/p> \n <p> <b>Sp\u011bch<\/b> <\/p> \n <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">N\u011bkdy m\u016f\u017eeme vn\u00edmat ur\u010dit\u00fd tlak, nepohodu z nov\u00e9ho single \u017eivota, co\u017e n\u00e1s m\u016f\u017ee v\u00e9st k prvn\u00edmu \u010dlov\u011bku, kter\u00fd projde okolo. Nep\u0159em\u00fd\u0161l\u00edme p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 nad t\u00edm, zda m\u00e1me n\u011bco spole\u010dn\u00e9ho, jak n\u00e1m s doty\u010dn\u00fdm je nebo jestli se k sob\u011b hod\u00edme. Jde o vypln\u011bn\u00ed ur\u010dit\u00e9 porozchodov\u00e9 pr\u00e1zdnoty, vypln\u011bn\u00ed nenad\u00e1l\u00e9ho mno\u017estv\u00ed voln\u00e9ho \u010dasu a slibujeme si od toho, \u017ee n\u00e1s tento \u010dlov\u011bk op\u011bt nastartuje, dostane to k\u00fd\u017een\u00e9ho \u201cnorm\u00e1lu\u201d, kde n\u00e1s \u010dek\u00e1 nov\u00fd za\u010d\u00e1tek. I kdy\u017e neexistuje pravidlo na to, kdy za\u010d\u00edt s nov\u00fdm vztahem, toto ukvapen\u00e9 jedn\u00e1n\u00ed bohu\u017eel \u010dasto p\u0159inese v\u00edce smutku ne\u017e radosti. D\u0159\u00edve \u010di pozd\u011bji \u010dlov\u011bk za\u010dne vn\u00edmat smutek minul\u00e9ho rozchodu a nedostatky sou\u010dasn\u00e9ho vztahu. Podle psychologick\u00fdch studi\u00ed jen zhruba t\u0159etina lid\u00ed nalezne uspokojen\u00ed v kr\u00e1tkodob\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch a tzv. p\u0159evozn\u00edkem, kter\u00e9 slou\u017e\u00ed k vyrovn\u00e1n\u00ed se se ztr\u00e1tou minul\u00e9ho vztahu a ke zp\u0159etrh\u00e1n\u00ed pout s b\u00fdval\u00fdm partnerem. Zkuste si udr\u017eet odstup, nepodl\u00e9hejte sv\u00fdm p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 rychl\u00fdm rozhodnut\u00edm, p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm t\u011bm, kter\u00e9 za v\u00e1s rozhodly pouze va\u0161e emoce \u010di pot\u0159eby.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n <p> &nbsp; <\/p> \n <p> <b>P\u0159evozn\u00edk<\/b> <\/p> \n <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">N\u011bkter\u00e9ho studie uv\u00e1d\u011bj\u00ed, \u017ee tzv. p\u0159evozn\u00edkem se velmi z\u0159\u00eddka st\u00e1v\u00e1 n\u011bkdo ciz\u00ed, sp\u00ed\u0161e jde o zn\u00e1m\u00e9 \u010di minul\u00e9 partnery. Z 21% to b\u00fdv\u00e1 kamar\u00e1d nebo zn\u00e1m\u00fd, ve 20% dokonce b\u00fdval\u00fd partner, se kter\u00fdm je udr\u017eov\u00e1n jak\u00fdsi vztah na b\u00e1z\u00ed \u201cfriends with benefits\u201d. Nicm\u00e9n\u011b v z 54% to je partner z je\u0161t\u011b d\u0159\u00edv\u011bj\u0161\u00edho vztahu. V\u0161echny tyto kontakty maj\u00ed jednu spole\u010dnou v\u011bc a tou je d\u016fv\u011bra, pocit zn\u00e1mosti, jistoty, bezpe\u010d\u00ed. Opravdu se tak m\u016f\u017ee jednat o napln\u011bn\u00ed pot\u0159eby zahojit r\u00e1ny.<\/span> <\/p> \n <p> &nbsp; <\/p> \n <p> <b>Pomsta<\/b> <\/p> \n <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dal\u0161\u00ed motivac\u00ed pro ukvapen\u00fd vztah m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt pot\u0159eba uk\u00e1zat b\u00fdval\u00e9mu partnerovi, \u017ee nejsme sami, \u017ee n\u00e1s rozchod nezlomil a my si d\u00e1l u\u017e\u00edv\u00e1me \u017eivota. Zamysleme se tedy nad opravdov\u00fdmi pro\u017eitky z nov\u00e9ho vztahu. Co n\u00e1m p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed, jak se s nov\u00fdm partnerem c\u00edt\u00edme, mysl\u00edme na b\u00fdval\u00e9ho nebo na to, co by na n\u00e1\u0161 nov\u00fd vztah \u0159ekl? Jde n\u00e1m o to, jak vypad\u00e1me p\u0159ed b\u00fdval\u00fdm partnerem nebo p\u0159ed kamar\u00e1dy? Pak je asi vhodn\u00e9 zpomalit a d\u00e1t pr\u016fchod pocit\u016fm, kter\u00e9 jsou skryt\u00e9 ve snaze vypadat \u201cv pohod\u011b\u201d. M\u016f\u017ee j\u00edt o vztek, smutek, zklam\u00e1n\u00ed, zoufalstv\u00ed, pr\u00e1zdnotu a mnoh\u00e9 dal\u0161\u00ed.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n <p> &nbsp; <\/p> \n <p> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mus\u00edme podotknout, \u017ee \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd rozchod nen\u00ed stejn\u00fd. Pramen\u00ed z historie vztahu a tak ho ka\u017ed\u00fd ho pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 \u00fapln\u011b jinak. V p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b, \u017ee chceme p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm s n\u011bk\u00fdm tr\u00e1vit \u010das, nov\u00fd vztah n\u00e1s netr\u00e1p\u00ed a obecn\u011b se d\u00e1 \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee n\u00e1m p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed zdrav\u00ed prosp\u011b\u0161n\u00e9 v\u011bci, tedy nap\u0159\u00edklad to, \u017ee nepropad\u00e1me depres\u00edm ze ztr\u00e1ty vztahu, v takov\u00fd moment pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b rizika nep\u0159evy\u0161uj\u00ed zisky a je pr\u00e1v\u011b toto cesta, jak se z porozchodov\u00e9 f\u00e1ze dostat. <\/span> <\/p> \n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" <p> Venku je kr\u00e1sn\u011b, p\u0159\u00edroda i l\u00e1ska kolem v\u00e1s jen kvete, ale vy p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161l\u00edte nad t\u00edm, zda je ten spr\u00e1vn\u00fd \u010das na to vrhat se do nov\u00e9ho vztahu? I kdy\u017e je M\u00e1j \u201cl\u00e1sky \u010das\u201d m\u016f\u017eete b\u00fdt pr\u00e1v\u011b v porozchodov\u00e9m obdob\u00ed. M\u016f\u017ee to znamenat, \u017ee se m\u00eds\u00ed pocity osam\u011blosti a z\u00e1rove\u0148 touhy b\u00fdt s n\u011bk\u00fdm. Ne\u017e se &hellip; <\/p> \n","protected":false},"author":24,"featured_media":6361,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[87],"tags":[124,98],"table_tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6482"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/24"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6482"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6482\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6483,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6482\/revisions\/6483"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6361"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6482"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6482"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6482"},{"taxonomy":"table_tags","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/table_tags?post=6482"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}