{"id":6489,"date":"2021-07-14T08:56:53","date_gmt":"2021-07-14T08:56:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/?p=6489"},"modified":"2021-07-14T08:56:53","modified_gmt":"2021-07-14T08:56:53","slug":"tolerance-a-kompromis-ve-vztazich","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/tolerance-a-kompromis-ve-vztazich\/","title":{"rendered":"Tolerance a kompromis ve vztaz\u00edch"},"content":{"rendered":"

Co je to vlastn\u011b tolerance? Znamen\u00e1 to, \u017ee bychom m\u011bli p\u0159ij\u00edmat v\u0161echno, co druh\u00fd d\u011bl\u00e1, i kdy\u017e se s t\u00edm neztoto\u017e\u0148ujeme? Definice slova tolerance je opravdu spojen\u00e1 se schopnost\u00ed sn\u00e1\u0161et to, v co sami nev\u011b\u0159\u00edme nebo neuzn\u00e1v\u00e1me, ale tak\u00e9 to, co je n\u00e1m obecn\u011b nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9. Na jednu stranu se tolerance poj\u00ed se schopnost\u00ed b\u00fdt s lidmi, kte\u0159\u00ed maj\u00ed jin\u00e9 n\u00e1zory a na druhou stranu tak\u00e9 zvl\u00e1dnout nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 pocity nap\u0159. hladu, hluk nebo nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 prost\u0159ed\u00ed. Tolerance je tedy do jist\u00e9 m\u00edry nutn\u00e1 k p\u0159e\u017eit\u00ed i z\u00e1kladn\u00edmu fungov\u00e1n\u00ed ve spole\u010dnost\u00ed.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n

Pokud se zam\u011b\u0159\u00edme na toleranci ve vztaz\u00edch d\u00e1 se \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee jde o b\u011bh na dlouhou tra\u0165. Postoj mlad\u00fdch lid\u00ed k chov\u00e1n\u00ed a n\u00e1zor\u016fm druh\u00fdch je tzv. \u010dernob\u00edl\u00fd, je pln\u00fd energie, v\u00e1\u0161n\u011b, absolutn\u00edho souhlasu \u010di absolutn\u00edho nesouhlasu. Stejn\u011b tak se tento postoj prom\u00edt\u00e1 do vztah\u016f mlad\u00fdch p\u00e1r\u016f. Ve dvaceti letech jsou vztahy pln\u00e9 zvrat\u016f, obrovsk\u00e9 zamilovanosti, dramatick\u00fdch rozchod\u016f \u010di \u017e\u00e1rliv\u00fdch sc\u00e9n. Po t\u0159ic\u00e1t\u00e9m roce se tato dynami\u010dnost m\u011bn\u00ed. Nejde o to, \u017ee bychom ztr\u00e1celi pot\u0159ebu b\u00fdt milov\u00e1ni nebo touhu milovat. S p\u0159irozen\u00fdm zr\u00e1n\u00edm osobnosti p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed tak\u00e9 rozd\u00edln\u00fd pohled na ide\u00e1ln\u00edho partnera, p\u0159ehodnocujeme vlastn\u00ed n\u00e1zory a hodnoty, i to, jak\u00e9 vlastnosti jsou pro n\u00e1s v partnerstv\u00ed d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9. Po odezn\u011bn\u00ed prvn\u00ed zamilovanosti za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1me vn\u00edmat chyby na na\u0161em partnerovi, ale d\u00edky vlastn\u00ed vyzr\u00e1losti je tak\u00e9 jinak hodnot\u00edme a st\u00e1v\u00e1me se tolerantn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. Neznamen\u00e1 to, \u017ee partnerovi v\u0161e tolerujeme a p\u0159ijmeme bezpodm\u00edne\u010dn\u011b v\u0161e, co d\u011bl\u00e1. Znamen\u00e1 to, \u017ee dok\u00e1\u017eeme rozli\u0161ovat co je a co nen\u00ed d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9, zvl\u00e1dneme tak nad n\u011bkter\u00fdmi v\u011bcmi m\u00e1vnout rukou, proto\u017ee m\u00e1me v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed nadhled, \u017eivotn\u00ed i osobn\u00ed.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n

Zral\u00e9 partnerstv\u00ed je spojeno s toleranc\u00ed, co\u017e tak\u00e9 znamen\u00e1 schopnost nach\u00e1zet kompromisy. Dok\u00e1\u017eeme respektovat odli\u0161nosti, chyby a tak si vz\u00e1jemn\u011b poskytovat ur\u010ditou osobn\u00ed svobodu bez toho, abychom sami ztratili jistotu a d\u016fv\u011bru v partnera. Pokud nedok\u00e1\u017eeme ve vztahu hledat kompromisy a sp\u00ed\u0161e prosazujeme vlastn\u00ed n\u00e1zory, t\u011b\u017eko se vz\u00e1jemn\u011b slad\u00edme. V takov\u00e9 chv\u00edli spolu sout\u011b\u017e\u00edme m\u00edsto toho, abychom t\u00e1hli za jeden provaz a sm\u011b\u0159ovali ke spole\u010dn\u00e9mu c\u00edli.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n

Pokud m\u00e1te p\u0159esn\u00e9 p\u0159edstavy o tom, jak\u00fd by v\u00e1\u0161 partner m\u011bl b\u00fdt, bude jen velmi t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 n\u011bkoho takov\u00e9ho naj\u00edt. Pokud n\u011bkoho najdete, ale budete ho cht\u00edt zm\u011bnit k obrazu sv\u00e9mu, je jen ot\u00e1zkou \u010dasu, kdy se objev\u00ed t\u0159ec\u00ed plochy a h\u00e1dky. Nikdo nen\u00ed dokonal\u00fd, to je zlat\u00e9 po\u0159ekadlo, kter\u00e9 v partnersk\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch plat\u00ed dvojn\u00e1sob. Je nutn\u00e9 si tak\u00e9 uv\u011bdomit, \u017ee stejn\u011b jako n\u00e1\u0161 partner nen\u00ed dokonal\u00fd, ani my sami nejsme dokonal\u00ed.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n

Jak dosp\u011bt ke kompromisu?<\/b> <\/p> \n

Netla\u010dte v\u017edy na sv\u016fj n\u00e1zor. Pod\u00edvejte se na v\u011bc z jin\u00e9ho \u00fahlu pohledu, nechte si od partnera vysv\u011btlit jeho postoj a vn\u00edman\u00e9 souvislosti. Udr\u017ete si nadhled a odstup, bude pak snaz\u0161\u00ed hledat kompromis.<\/span> <\/p> \n

P\u0159iznat chybu nen\u00ed slabost. Naopak je schopnost p\u0159iznat, \u017ee nem\u00e1te pravdu a dok\u00e1zat se partnerovi omluvit, je znakem vyzr\u00e1losti vztahu i va\u0161\u00ed osobnosti.\u00a0<\/span> <\/p> \n

Schopnost tolerance ve vztahu vede ke hlub\u0161\u00ed intimit\u011b a d\u016fv\u011b\u0159e mezi partnery. Ti pak za\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed spokojenost a pohodu, jejich vztah je doprov\u00e1zen siln\u011bj\u0161\u00edm pocit soun\u00e1le\u017eitosti a vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9ho porozum\u011bn\u00ed. Naopak p\u0159ehnan\u00e9 o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed a n\u00e1roky na partnera vztah postupn\u011b uhas\u00ed. Schopnost tolerance a kompromisu n\u00e1m p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed tak\u00e9 v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed uv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00ed toho, co je pro n\u00e1s d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 a co dok\u00e1\u017eeme prominout. Adekv\u00e1tn\u00ed m\u00edra vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9ho kompromisu a tolerance posouv\u00e1 vztah dop\u0159edu a posiluje ho. <\/span> <\/p> \n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Co je to vlastn\u011b tolerance? Znamen\u00e1 to, \u017ee bychom m\u011bli p\u0159ij\u00edmat v\u0161echno, co druh\u00fd d\u011bl\u00e1, i kdy\u017e se s t\u00edm neztoto\u017e\u0148ujeme? Definice slova tolerance je opravdu spojen\u00e1 se schopnost\u00ed sn\u00e1\u0161et to, v co sami nev\u011b\u0159\u00edme nebo neuzn\u00e1v\u00e1me, ale tak\u00e9 to, co je n\u00e1m obecn\u011b nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9. Na jednu stranu se tolerance poj\u00ed se schopnost\u00ed b\u00fdt s … <\/p> \n","protected":false},"author":24,"featured_media":6491,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[87],"tags":[113],"table_tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6489"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/24"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6489"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6489\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6523,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6489\/revisions\/6523"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6491"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6489"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6489"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6489"},{"taxonomy":"table_tags","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.yellobar.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/table_tags?post=6489"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}